Showing posts with label indian kids. Show all posts
Showing posts with label indian kids. Show all posts

Saturday, 29 March 2008

Games kids play

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“Honey! I told you to play and you are staring outside the window. What’s up?”



“Mom! You told me to take a break of 5 minutes for every half-hour and stare outside. Instead, I am staring now for full 20 minutes and play for two hours together”



This is a joke I just read in one of the magazines. The kid without understanding what the mother said had innovatively come out with an alternate idea for a break-free game. The kid unknowingly defeated the very purpose of the break his mother wanted to provide. Lighter moments apart, this joke indirectly tells us a one dangerous evil that has entered all our living rooms without any warning.



You guessed it right and we are talking about the menace of the video games. I was born and brought up in Chennai and luckily I happened to live in a Agraharam – a secluded place where Brahmins resided in groups. We had enough space to play around there. Though cricket was the predominant game, the games used to change according to seasons. They played cricket, chess, carom, sprinting, hopping, volley ball and of course local games like flying kites, top, marbles and gilli-danda. I stayed away from sprinting and all other local games. Nevertheless, we happened to run around those spaces and enjoyed our evenings. Indeed, I was lucky enough to have such an open space (however, small it was) in a so-called metro-city.



My son, as long as we resided in Vapi, never stayed awake after 2130hrs. His daily routines started as early as 6 in the morning as to get ready by 6:45 as to catch his school bus. He will be back by 14:00hrs and will have his lunch. He will complete his homework by 17:00 and used to go out for playing. He will be back by 18:30. He will freshen up, have his prayer, have his dinner and by 21:00 will hit the bed.



I was sure, he could not stay no longer awake as he used to get tired from his hectic schedule of schooling and playing. We had a huge open space in our colony and all that he has to do is to run around. He skated at times, cycled, played cricket or football. Though Vapi is a small town, even his school had a good big play ground and my son literally had a nice time there to keep him engaged in physical activities.



Now I have shifted to Pune a relatively bigger city. It has its own advantages and disadvantages. At the outset, space is a bigger constraint here. There are no free spaces here. Even the schools lacked play grounds. I had a tough time choosing a school for my son that could engage him physically also.



I hardly saw people strolling. Everybody is busy but to themselves. Either they are hooked onto their TV sets while their kids are hooked onto their play-stations. All the gaming that kids do here is virtual game. If you cannot afford to have a PC at home, there are cyber cafes where more stations are dedicated to such kids who literally play. They play virtual cricket, fire virtual crackers and those kids in such cities playing games means playing Video / PC games and not the games that are played in open ground.



Irony is, such video games are harmful to the kids. It makes them lazy at the outset. Due to lack of physical activities, they do not get tired and sleep comes late. They wake till late night and get up late in the morning. “Early to bed and Early to rise” has no meaning in today’s living standards. Needless to mention, the harm that is created to the eyes (that go dry) and small kids with spectacles have become very common nowadays.



Apart from these well know problems, the additional problem now is the content per se of the game. No longer kids are interested in Car racing, or Mario jumping – it is the turn of terrorists winning over the good. Bombarding bombs, firing with sten-guns, use of ammunition are all quite common in games. If it is not preferred, then there is WWF. In a nutshell, we are encouraging violence from the childhood. Or we might say, we are preparing our kids to tackle terrorism (or teach them to live with it) at this young age.



If two kids played together then one of them must be Khali & the other must be Undertaker (I doubt whether these kids knew the meaning of this word). What sort of ethics are we imposing on our kids?


British Govt has come out with a novel plan of issuing a censorship certificate for such games so that parents can have a choice. I seriously doubt whether this will work. By issuing a certificate the govt approves production of such games with such topics. Is it right? At the least it gives some control. Here again the problem is sharing. Even if one parent allows their kid to have an access to such games, it spreads across to his buddies. Whoever not supposed to have an access will have an access to it and the very purpose of the certification is getting defeated.



Unfortunately, parents treat children as menace. They fail to realize that the menaces of such games are more harmful than the menace of kids. In fact, parents should start enjoying the menace of their children that would develop a bonding relationship among them. Say no to video games – if it is of violent games, then it must be a taboo. Similarly, let us stop purchasing toys like gun, pistol, etc., that can indirectly encourage violence among kids.

Thursday, 6 March 2008

Peer Pressure on Indian Kids Part 3

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Broad Based Education – A story



All the animals in a forest decided to start a school for themselves. The objective was to give all the animals a broad based education. Those got enrolled included a bird, a fish, a fox, an eel, a rabbit etc., as a part of the curriculum, it was decided to teach flying, tree-climbing, swimming, burrowing to all of them.


The bird was good at flying and got O grades (Outstanding) but when it came to burrowing, the bird kept on breaking its beaks and wings. Slowly it failed in flying also. Due to this it got C (average) in flying and D (poor) in other subjects.


Similarly, Fish was getting O in swimming but could not come out of water to take on other subjects. Hence it failed in all other subjects.


So is the case with rabbit that got O in burrowing but got its head damaged while tree climbing due to which it got poor grades in burrowing also?


Meanwhile Dog was whining that barking should be included in the curriculum.


Eel was the only animal that did half of all these. Based on the average grades, it was declared as the brilliant student!



Moral: Broad based education should see to that the students are prepared for their life without losing their core competence.



Under such circumstances, what is wrong with the parents who wish their kids to excel in whatever the system we follow even if it requires adapting certain unwanted measures? We, the parents are ready to change ourselves however, will our politicians allow us to do so? If they are ready, means, changing the education system, prioritizing meritocracy, implementing competent based education and not number based one etc, then India 2020 what visualized by Dr. Abdul Kalam would become a certainty!



I thank Aamir khan for raking up the most important issue with a nice illustration through this movie!

Peer Pressure on Indian Kids Part 1

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Generally, I do not watch movies, but I happened to watch the movie, “Taare Zameen Par” telecast on a local cable channel. My wife compelled me to do so as she felt that it is a must for every parent to watch this movie!



I am not about to write a review of the movie but some school of thoughts which I liked to share with those who read this blog. The story is simple. A kid with specific learning disorder is being repeatedly cursed by his parents and later dumped into a residential school. The kid is ill-treated there again and he loses his self-confidence. Then, an understanding teacher arrives on the scene, who nurtures the skills of the kid and transforms him to a normal one.



There are lessons in this movie. Even if we conducted a classroom session to all the parents on this subject, this would not have made an impact. Nowadays, what we call as “peer pressure” is too enormous on the kids. With severe competition from every corner of life, kids are pressurized to the extreme level and there is no second thought about it.



It is quite natural for every parent to expect their kin to excel in whatever they do and I am no exception to this! If we happened to find a talent, we hang onto that and make all efforts to extract that from our kin. This ends exerting the peer pressure on the kids. The fear of losing makes kids less self-confident. More than the fear of losing, at times, it is the fear of facing the parents’ wrath on failures makes them lose their confidence.



Such pressures on kids do not make any good but harm them badly. At times, it costs them their life also. The increase in number of suicides during exam and results time proves this point.



Kids, nowadays, are being pressurized by the parents with the sole aim of getting numbers (not less than 90%) in all subjects. The deserted look of the playgrounds and gardens (in India, most of the cities do not have play ground or garden for common public is another irony) stands proof of this. Evenings meant for play is now meant for tuitions.



Hiring a special tutor for kid has become a status-symbol. The mushrooming coaching class centers is a proof. In my school days, tuition meant focused teaching to the student who is below-average. Nowadays, invariably, all students enroll in these coaching centers. Such centers now have become another class room with 50 to 60 students cramped in a room and the same subjects are literally vomited or spoon-fed to the kids. The teacher to student ratio in the schools are whopping 1:80 that is another pity situation



Being a parent, I am no exception to all above mentioned facts. I also wish that my kid always stood first in the school. We (more than me, my wife) grind our heads during the tests and exams just for the sake that our son scores good marks.

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